Why Having a Funeral Service Matters
When thinking about funerals at funeral homes in Tallahassee, FL, you may think that you don’t want any kind of service after you die. You may tell your family that you don’t want a service. You may say something like, “just take me to the cemetery and bury me.”
However, while you may not personally care about or even want any kind of service after you die, there are a few things you might want to think about in terms of why funeral services matter.
First of all, you’ll be dead. You won’t know whether a service of any kind is held for you or not. So, prohibiting your family from having some kind of service to pay tribute to your life and to stop to acknowledge your death – and their loss – is a limitation you are putting on them from the grave, so to speak. And they may not be happy about it.
The second thing you’ll want to consider is that a service – whether it’s a funeral service, a graveside service, or a memorial service – after you die is for those people – family, friends, and acquaintances – who survive you. The service honors your memory, but it’s not really for you.
Funeral services have a very practical and necessary purpose that you may not be aware of, but that you probably don’t want to deprive your family of. The funeral process, from death to making arrangements to having a service to burial, spans several days. This time gives your loved ones a chance to accept the reality of your death, surrounded by support and sympathy of friends and extended family.
The funeral process, in essence, creates a safe landing for your loved ones as they adjust to losing you and the prospect of living without you and with the void that your death has created in their lives.
The funeral service is the centerpiece of the funeral process. It is a service that’s designed for three things: comfort for your loved ones, collective mourning for all those who attend, and acknowledgement that you lived, your life mattered, and you will be missed.
Funeral services also give a judgment-free zone where people, including your loved ones, can grieve. Out of funeral services come important and lasting items that can both evoke good memories and guide your loved ones through the grieving process.
One of these items might be a memorial website, where people from all over who knew you, but might not be able to attend your funeral service in person, can offer their condolences to your loved ones and share memories of their relationship with you. Memorial websites are also a place where photos and other reminders of you can be posted so that your loved ones have access to them long after the funeral process is over.
Another item that is included in the funeral service is the Order of Service, which includes your photo, your date of birth and date of death, and the details about your funeral service and graveside service.
Most funeral services include readings, such as poetry, prose, and Bible scriptures. These are read by people who were important in your life. Funerals also may include eulogies given by close friends or family members. Funeral services also usually have a spiritual comfort section and music (performed live or recorded). The Order of Service lists each part and who is doing it, and it is a permanent reminder for both your loved ones and all those who attend of you and your life.
If you want to know more about funeral services at funeral homes in Tallahassee, FL, our compassionate and experienced staff at Lifesong Funerals & Cremations can help. You can come by our funeral home at 20 S. Duval St., Quincy, FL 32351, or you can contact us today at (850) 627-1111.
